(Please note I wrote this a while back, so it may not be as timely.)

Ah, yes, Jon and Kate Plus 8. I have had many people talk to me about how much they love that show.

"I love that show. The kids are so cute."

I have watched only a few episodes...most of the time channel surfing during the show because when I did watch it, it made me cringe (and the thought of bearing eight children made me want to cross my legs twice)

The times I watched the show, I could see Jon and Kate were headed for trouble in paradise (if they ever were in paradise). I actually felt sorry for Jon. When I heard and saw the latest celebrity gossip web sites and magazines such as US Weekly, I wasn't surprised.

Why wasn't I surprised? Because Kate is the No. 1 nagging wife. The reasons I would quickly turn the channel when I actually wasted my time watching the show was when Kate would yell (or scream) at Jon.

"JON,HELLO! GET OVER HERE!"

I recall hearing that line when the family visited the Crayola museum. Kate insisted the kids wear nice clothes. She would scream, "OH MY GOD! THIS IS SO MESSY!" Um, yeah, kids get messy! I don't have kids, but my friends have kids. They are dirty.

Oh, yes, another time, she actually told him, "Yeah, that was a little premature what you did there, Jon."

From what I have observed, Kate talks down to Jon. She gives him no respect. Oh yes, I love the times, (please note my sarcasm) when she hits Jon.

I have read in a few magazines that Kate would criticize Jon when she could hear him breathing. I recall sitting on my couch dumbfounded after hearing the bitchy things she could tell Jon.

So, no, I was not AT ALL surprised when I heard and read the gossip.

I am not saying it is officially ALL of Kate's fault but a good chunk of it. I tell people, "You never know what goes on behind closed doors." Who knows...perhaps Jon is lazy or unhelpful or not very nice to his wife.

I do understand that having eight kids while trying to manage a marriage AND household AND finances could be stressful, but you can be nice about it.

I think the show can teach us what NOT to do when married. Don't be mean. You can express anger in a calm fashion. Watch your tone. If your spouse does something to cause you upset, tell him/her yet you can be sweet about it. Don't call your spouse names. Respect your spouse even when you may not like him/her at the moment.

I think an important thing to remember is when your spouse does something good like clean the house without your asking or opens the door for you, praise him/her. Show your appreciation.

Be nice. No one likes a bitch (or a prick)!